Tonite I had just about the most fun time I've ever had with technology. This time, hi-tech brought my extended family closer together in a way that I haven't seen them get in real life, and that made it ever more special. And it almost didn't happen, which makes me contrarily so frustrated at gadgetry sometimes. The fact that it half-worked actually made the whole experience even funnier than ever. To wit...
Picture the scene: Grammy has sent the boys an elaborate "back to school" care package in the mail. The boys are excited to open it, and discover all sorts of goodies for school inside, practical and silly, just like our boys. Our normal family response to this is to fire up the Mac Mini on the HDTV and say our shy and dutiful thank-you's (the boys are appreciative but not very forthcoming about it).
Since Grammy is not always online at every waking moment, I usually call her to ask her to jump on the ISH (Info-Super-Hiway), and an idea struck me: what if she could find a book in the house of which we also had a copy, and she read a story to the boys? The boys had been clamoring for some story time today, and Di warned me when I got home from work that I would be bombarded with book requests. That's not a bad thing: whose kids pester them to be read to? I read one while making dinner but I could tell they weren't satisfied yet.
So I called and talked to Grammy and asked her what books she had to read from, knowing we didn't have a lot of mutual duplicates (this is by design, so that when we visit, the books there are fresh and fun and "Grammy-only"). We toyed with Berenstain Bears, Dr. Suess, and finally settled on "Are You My Mother?", by P.D. Eastman (true story: I found out she's a woman author just this year; I never knew!). We agreed to get online, I hung up, and started to get the webcam working.
As seems to always happen, we couldn't get things working right the first 9 or 10 times. I always am frustrated by this, as is Grammy, and I felt the brilliance of this idea fading away quickly. We could chat, but not share video. She restarted, then we could get video, but no sound (hard to read a book that way). I called her back, and she could hear us, but we couldn't hear her. I'm just about ready to call it all off, when I see the soundless communication start to unfold between Grammy and the boys. We had our book ready, and she was holding it up to the camera and waving it back and forth. Ethan, transfixed by the movement (reminds me of ravens and shiny things), clicks on the lightbulb over his head and gets his book and starts waving it. Meanwhile, Owen has started to make faces in the camera, and Grammy is miming him back. Our 42" screen makes for a fairly large display, so when she comes in close, there's a towering 3 foot wide head of Grammy suddenly looming in the living room, and the boys all scatter like we're playing "Run, Run, Tickle, Tag (tm)".

The laughter is infectious, enough for me to try and salvage the story time idea, so I restart, and we get sound working, and the boys settle in for the story time. Grammy reads while Ethan turns the pages for Owen, and Ethan is quietly mouthing the words as Grammy reads them. The mix of hi- and low-tech is blissful to me: the boys sharing a quiet, concentrated moment with Grammy, and I get to share it in a "fly-on-the-wall" sort of way that I hardly ever get to do. They are captivated by the enormous head reading the words on the screen (Owen hardly looks at the book at all).
The book comes to an end, and that's when the magic really begins. Immediately, the boys are back to tongue-wagging, face-making, and jumping on the sofa, all in the hopes of garnering some sort of attention from Grammy. They're showing off, something they rarely do in her physical presence. The disconnectedness of the screen plus the familiar home surroundings coupled with miming for the camera sets them afire. Then Grammy joins in, and now there's the 3 foot head slowly zooming into the lens for a big wet kiss (how I wish I caught that image on camera!), and the boys scatter again in sheer delight and mock terror.
The fun isn't one-sided, either. Grammy's carried away by the screams and squeals of the boys running in fright from her antics, and she's bursting with unstoppable laughter. It's Billy Melton's dropped soda and Keith Banda's joke about a chicken all rolled into one (sorry, inside jokes), and I am trying hard not let the top of my head fall off from the grin on my face. The boys and Grammy are actually "having a moment", something I dearly, dearly miss about the physical distance between us. Tech actually brought us together tonite, stronger, closer, more intimately.
As with all things that are sweet and enjoyable, we made our polite thank-you's for the care package, and wound down the encounter all too quickly. I dragged the goodbye's on too long, the boys getting impatient for 'the next thing' to do, me not wanting the moment to end, and feeling a strong moment of Sehnsucht for Mutti. Thanks, very much, Grammy, for making my boys laugh, and reading a story, and being, well, *you*. You didn't know it, but you were giving me a big hug the whole time, and I back to you.